How to dress for a date with a Japanese man?
Written by Méline

3 Japanese dress-code to get inspired from for your date!

How to make his Japanese heart race, just using your outfit!

There is no proper rules for the way you should dress for a date, the most important thing is obviously that you feel confident and comfortable in your own clothe and style! Furthermore, being “you” and dressing as yourself might be the best way to be natural and attractive in the eye of a man. Never forget that the best version of you will always be the confident you.

But if you’re curious about the way Japanese woman usually dress for a date with a Japanese man, and you’re looking for inspiration for your own date, here are some different styles you might want to try!

1 - Staying simple

Japanese woman usually dress in a pretty simple way, and everything that is too cleavage-friendly or too short on the body might easily be considered ‘slutty’. So don’t push yourself too hard trying to dress sexy and revealing, and keep in mind that many Japanese men are used to a more classic fashion, and your sexiness may be misinterpreted. Dressing modestly is a way to make you appear as ‘marriage material’, someone who’s down to earth, trustworthy and serious. If you want to be this way, avoid tight clothes, short skirts and deep cleavage, and go for less-revealing clothes. Avoid using a large variety of colors in your getup, and stick to two or three neutral colors. Something like a brown or white is a very innocent color (especially in Autumn), whereas brighter colors might give off the impression that you have a very strong character, which can be a turn-off.

2 - Kawaii

Whereas or not you’re familiar with Japanese culture, you might probably have come across the work ‘kawaii’ at least once in your life. Kawaii can be literally translate by ‘cute’, but in fact suggests more than just acting or dressing cute. Kawaii indeed can be considered a all way of life, by the way you dress, you behave, you eat and even how you hold your drink (with two hands to appear weaker, and therefore cutter). Japanese culture tends to drive women into being kawaii in order to be attractive, which tends men to look for kawaii women. See our article about <seduction techniques used by Japanese women> to learn more about it.

So how to dress kawaii? Basically, as twisted as it may sound, get your outfit inspiration in the wardrobe of a young girl. High-socks, innocent patterns, particular shapes of dresses… and voilà, you’re kawaii, and you might trigger men’s will to protect you (if this is what you’re into).

3 - Unintentionally sexy

As mentioned before, Japan is not very into the overly sexy outfit. So how do you trigger your date’s imagination? By being sexy… but as you didn’t mean to! It’s kind of like letting him see why he shouldn’t, and pretend you don’t know he’s seeing it. Twisted, yes, but also very sexy.

In a practical way, unintentionally sexy might be a loose sweater that let a shoulder appears ‘by mistake’, or wearing a crossbody bag with a strap that goes across your breasts and make them a bit more obvious… The key here is to be sexy without being obvious about revealing, just let him have an idea of what’s behind those clothes rather than showing too easily. Pro tip: Tops that are grey in color, as well as sweaters in general, help makes your breasts looks bigger.

NB: not bringing a jacket in a chilly weather, so he can put his own on you… For a more romantic atmosphere! (and then he if he gets sick, then you can take care of him)

I hope those advices will help you conquer his heart!


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